Choosing Our Friends And The Rule Of Five

If you have ever have ever heard of the law of five, it goes like this: take the average of your five closest friends, and you will become the average of those five emotionally, financially, socially, spiritually. A great saying that sums this up is, “show me your friends, and I’ll show you your future.” Bottom line, those who we are around greatly influence us whether we like it or not.

“In the name of the Lord Jesus Christ, we command you, brothers and sisters, to keep away from every believer who is idle and disruptive and that does not live according to the teaching you received from us.” – 1 Thessalonians 3:6

If we want a better life, one of the first things to look at is our circle of friends. We need to watch out who we spend time with, talk or text on the phone, those whose problems we allow to occupy our minds and steal our peace and joy. We might think that we are being helpful and helping out others, but is it to the demise of ourselves?

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Changing who we spend time with is one of the easiest things that we can do to positively impact our lives. And while it is one of easiest most common senses things we can do to change our mindsets, our circumstances, and our lives, so few people actually do it. Why do we say that we want change, but then are unwilling to change? If we want change bad enough, we will be able to shut out those negative influences in our lives. It might be uncomfortable, but it is a lot less comfortable then divorce, cancer, and some of the other diseases that result from us not wanting to change bad enough until it is too late.

And while removing the bad influences from our lives is step one, step two is replacing those bad influences with some positive ones. If there are areas where we are struggling, we need to find someone who is not deficient in that area and who is willing to work with us in that area to improve ourselves. If we are deficient in money, we can find someone who is blessed financially and take notes. In our spiritual lived we can find someone who has a solid faith and learn from them. If we are out of shape we can find someone in great shape and work out with them. If we tend to be overly emotional find someone who is as steady as they come and find out how they do it.

The same holds true in our relationships with our significant others. If we want a good relationship, we have to take advice from a couple who has a wildly successful marriage, one where the flame is still lit after many, many years. It would be insane to take relationship advice from our single or divorces friends, or even those who are married but not truly happy.

When we love the Lord and know who He has created us to be, all of this becomes easier. We are powerful, chosen, anointed, created in God’s image, made for a reason. Let us not squander this life of ours that Christ paid with a price, his very life. Let us be diligent in who we let into our inner circle of five. Let us surround ourselves with brothers and sisters in Christ who truly have our best interest at heart.


Dear heavenly Father, thank you for your Word today. Help us to choose our friends wisely, that we might minimize the negative influences in our lives. Help us to remove from our inner circle those who are bringing chaos to our peace of mind, and into our relationships that truly matter. Help us to make good choices, to be strong, and to walk in your light and love. Give us today your Holy Spirit. Fill us with your goodness. Surround us with brothers and sisters who will help us reach new levels. Let s walk into the great future that you have planed for our lives. We thank you for our lives and for our very breath. We know that we are one of a kind, created for a unique purpose. Help us to know this purpose, and to live a life worthy of the price that you paid. We give you all the honor and glory and praise, in Jesus mighty name. Amen.

Today’s full reading: 1 Kings 4,5; 2 Chronicles 2; Psalm 101; 2 Thessalonians 3

Scripture References From Today’s Reflection: 

  • “Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.” – 1 Corinthians 15:33
  • “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” – Jeremiah 29:11
  • “Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore glorify God with your body.” – 1 Corinthians 6:19,20
  • “So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.” – Genesis 1:27
  • “For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.” – Matthew 18:20
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